Embrace Solo Travel

When I set out on my first solo travel adventure, I was 37 years old. Up until that point, I truly believed I needed a partner to travel, so I put a pause on my dreams to see the world until the “time was right”.

In this dream, I had saved all kinds of money, and I was in love with the perfect, jet-setting prince. I did meet my prince. And I did save the money.


Jeff just months before he was diagnosed with cancer

On June 4, 2018, my fiancé – my person – died of a swift and brutal cancer that took him in just four months. He was 40 years old.

And that’s how I learned the hard way that life is too damn short to postpone dreams. I quit my job that very month and stopped delaying my dream to travel and to write.

You Do Not Need a Partner to Travel!

But even as I packed my bags, I questioned whether I could travel the world alone. I quickly learned, however, the thing that all solo travelers know: Traveling solo does not mean traveling alone (unless you want to be alone).

Horseshoe Bend at Sunset
Horseshoe Bend in Arizona

I don’t mean that traveling solo isn’t sometimes lonely. I just mean that you will meet other people – travelers and locals alike – when you don’t want to be alone.

meeting friends when traveling alone

Out there on the road, I met women and men of all ages who just wanted to share a drink, tell a life story or two, and maybe experience a travel day together. We eagerly shared stories of heartbreak that we might hide away at home — all with no expectation other than friendship.

Solo travel in Laos
Luang Prabang, Laos

I hopped in my first harrowing Tuk-Tuk ride through Bangkok with a 40-something New Yorker recovering from a divorce, rode my first scooter on the Thai island of Koh Phangan behind a 20-something Canadian still healing from the sudden death of his mother, and took the strangest boat ride I’ve ever been on in Indonesia with a 30-something Hollander still reeling from providing the mouth-to-mouth resuscitation that would ultimately save her husband’s life.

I think you learn a lot more about a destination and a whole lot more about yourself when you are traveling solo.

watching the sunrise on the first diagnosis day anniversary
A Thailand sunrise


45 Days Traveling Solo in Thailand: 10 Lessons Learned

Or maybe it’s more accurate to say that you unlearn yourself and any preconceived notions you may have held about yourself.

solo travel means unlearning yourself

During my solo travel adventures, I learned how to slow down, stay away, and truly travel deeper. I stopped scheduling for every moment, sometimes skipped museums (gasp!), and found so much pleasure in doing the things I really wanted to do – rather than the things the guide books told me to do.

How to Travel Deeper

You Do Not Need to Be Single to Solo Travel!

It’s OK to travel solo even when you have a significant other! It isn’t selfish. It’s prioritizing yourself so that you can prioritize others when you return.

I believe that every person who loves to travel should take at least one solo trip in their lifetime.

Even if you have a significant other and/or children, I think it’s important to take the time to travel solo. It is when you spend time with yourself that real change happens.

Remember: Life-changing moments exist outside of the comfort zone.

It’s OK to Be Solo in Travel AND Single in Life!

I’ll be honest, being single again after the death of my partner has been an uncomfortable adjustment for me.

However, I do have a lot of experience on the subject of being single. I met Jeff some nine years after a painful divorce when I was just 28 years old. I spent those nine years falling in and out of “love”.

When I met Jeff, of course, I learned what love was and everything changed.

Now, in my 40s, I’m comfortable with my single status, but I still hate the dreaded question “why are you still single?”


Why Are You Still single? (And why you shouldn’t ask)

There is a real stigma that single people face – especially single women – and, while I sometimes find writing about my life as a single woman uncomfortable, I also consistently write about how life-changing moments exist outside of the comfort zone.

My Story:


My family is (sort of) getting used to this more open writing style. More importantly, I’m enjoying it. And I hope you will, too!

Nomad dating: trials, tribulations, and bullets dodged

And if you are both a single person and a solo traveler, I know you’ll relate with the following story about when a man actually said to me “your gypsy vibe terrifies me.” Let’s just say…this relationship didn’t work out in the end!

In the above story, this guy does correct his insensitive phrasing to say that it’s my “nomad” vibe that terrifies him…but his sentiment doesn’t change.

Despite the difficulties of dating with no known address, I do hope to find a partner. I’m happy by myself, but I want to share my life with someone. I want to find that immortal, soul-level love that Jeff showed me is possible.

There are more stories about single life and inspiration for solo travel to come! If you have a good story to share, please contact me. I love to hear and relate to your single and solo travel tales!

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Guide for meeting people while traveling

About the Author

Hi! I’m Jen!

I’m a freelance writer and travel blogger who quit my nine-to-five after my fiancé, Jeff, died of cancer at the age of 40. When he died, I realized that life is just too short to delay our dreams. Since my dream was to travel and write, I now travel and write full-time. Today I wear hiking boots instead of heels and collect experiences instead of things.

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