How to Make a Wish in Southeast Asia

Looking to make a wish in Southeast Asia? You are not alone. Here’s how and why you should join in the ritual of wish-making in Vietnam and Laos.

monks collecting alms in luang prabang

Outside of temples and padogas across Southeast Asia, there are cages full of tiny birds. If you buy a bird and release it, this symbolic gift of freedom is believed, by some, to bring good luck or to ensure a wish will come true.

I asked a guide in Vietnam about this and she said that, for her, the practice is symbolic of animal cruelty rather than luck because the birds should never be kept in those cramped cages in the first place.

She said that tourists should not support the cycle of abuse by releasing birds; however, if you want to make a wish in Southeast Asia, all is not lost.

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How to Make a Wish in Southeast Asia (Ethically)

Making a wish in Southeast Asia involves incense, especially in Vietnam.
Wishes are believed to ride on smoke in Vietnam. The larger the wish, the larger the bundle of incense!

My guide pointed to a group of fish swimming lazily in a pool outside of a temple and said: “Now, these are wishes that I can believe in.”

The massive fish in question were purchased in a market where they were destined to be dinner in the very near future. Instead, they were released into the water surrounding the temple with a wish from their benefactors, and they grew large with their freedom and fat with the gifts of food from temple visitors.

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She then explained that wishes are also believed to float on the smoke of incense. The larger the bundle of incense, the larger the wish must be.

She purchased a bundle of incense for me and respectfully stepped away while I made my wish, only stepping in when I started to blow out the flame on my incense sticks.

Gently stopping me with a touch on the hand, she explained that blowing out the flame is the work of the gods.

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Making a Wish for a Second Life in Luang Prabang

Only one week later, on a boat cruise on the Mekong River in Luang Prabang, I was presented with the opportunity to make a wish by freeing a fish.

A boat on the Mekong River in Luang Prabang where you can release a fish and make a wish in Southeast Asia.
The Mekong River in Luang Prabang.

Our captain asked us to write a wish on bamboo leaves that would be released along with three fish purchased from the Luang Prabang morning market earlier that day.

It was, our captain explained, a second life for the fish.

Making a wish in Southeast Asia on bamboo leaves to be released into the Mekong River.
Making a wish on a bamboo leaf to be released with three fish granted a “second life.”
Releasing the fish along with all of our wishes bundled in bamboo leaves.

The timing was good not only because I had clarity on the meaning behind the release of the fish, but also because my five-month journey through Southeast Asia was coming to an end, and any time an adventure comes to an end, there is a mandatory period of reflection.

Monks on the Mekong River in Luang Prabang where you can make a wish in Southeast Asia.
Monks preparing to walk across a bamboo bridge spanning the Mekong River

Luang Prabang is a Particularly Powerful Place to Make a Wish in Southeast Asia

And Luang Prabang is an ideal place for such reflection. This city of temples houses more than 1,000 apprentice monks who are often seen walking to school or maintaining one of the temples.

 A monk apprentice in Luang Prabang
An apprentice monk in Luang Prabang

At dawn, the city reverberates with the sound of gongs and chanting, signaling that its time for the giving and collecting of alms, a practice that brings monks and their apprentices into the neighborhoods to collect food and offerings from the people who line the street waiting to provide this daily gift to their local temple.

Collecting of alms in Luang Prabang
The giving and collecting of alms in Luang Prabang

Surrounded by this spirituality, the peaceful mountains of northern Laos, and the calm rustle of the Mekong River before the rains come, I have come to two realizations with surprise and with relief.

The Mekong River in Luang Prabang where releasing fish into the water for a chance at a second life is a ritual way of making a wish in Southeast Asia.

The first is that I am actually ready to go home. This is a new feeling for me and, I think, it is closely related to the second thing.

The second realization is that, for the first time since my partner, Jeff, died, I feel like myself again.

Crossing a bamboo bridge in Luang Prabang. It's the perfect place to make a wish in Southeast Asia.
It was a long journey to get here.

Making a Wish for a Second Life Came at Just the Right Time

I still miss Jeff very much, but I see the world once more for what it can give rather than for what it can take away.

Making a wish in Southeast Asia on bamboo leaves to be released into the Mekong River.
Sealing the end of my Southeast Asia journey with a wish.

And so, as I look toward home, a wish for a second life seems particularly powerful right about now.

If you’re looking for resources on grieving the loss of a loved one, please visit here. If you’re interested in stories about seeking more from life and from travel, please visit here.

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4 Comments on “How to Make a Wish in Southeast Asia”

  1. Pingback: The Last in a Year of Firsts | The Lens of Jen

  2. Your blog has made my cry and laugh and made my heart swell…I cannot wait to place my feet where you have been and share your joy… thank you…

  3. Thank you for opening yourself to everything and anything and for taking it all in with wonder and joy. Come home safely to us before you take off on your next adventure; we can’t wait to hold you and see the sparkle in your eyes.

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